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"Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« on: April 05, 2021, 02:15:45 PM »
Hi all, my husband and I were having an interesting conversation yesterday. We have some good friends who have given ALL of their children (boys as well as girls) "Mary" as a middle name. I think this is an interesting and cool tradition (it sounds "Continental" to me and not unusual), but my husband was pretty emphatic that it doesn't translate to a modern American context and that he wouldn't want to do it for our children. I can see both sides, but was wondering what you all thought of it. Have you given any of your sons variants of Mary as a middle name, and what's been your experience with this tradition in general? (FWIW, our son does not have Mary or any variant thereof as a middle name  ;))
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #1 on: April 05, 2021, 03:00:28 PM »
Not married, but if I do get married and God blesses me with a son(s), they will definitely not have Mary as a middle name. We are not in the 13th century anymore. Just my thoughts.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #2 on: April 05, 2021, 03:08:57 PM »
Louis-Marie Grignion de Montfort.  I don't think he chose the name when he became a priest either.  His Wikipedia page says "Louis-Marie passed most of his infancy and early childhood in Iffendic ..."  It may be a French thing.  Both his mother and father had the same first name; Jean-Baptiste and Jeanne Robert Grignion.  I had a friend named Claire; he had a French Canadian surname.

I kind of like the fact that they gave all their children the name Mary as a middle name.  But in this day and age the boys might have to learn to defend themselves.  I'll let Johnny Cash explain.  :)

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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #3 on: April 05, 2021, 03:29:50 PM »
@mikemac I was actually thinking of this song as I replied. Lol
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #4 on: April 05, 2021, 03:50:16 PM »
'Some gal would giggle and I'd get red, some guy'd laugh and I'd bust his head...' essence of manhood right there lol.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #5 on: April 05, 2021, 05:38:47 PM »
I am past my baby naming days, but I would not use Mary as a boy's middle name.  I would however seriously consider the Lithuanian version, Marius, even as a first name.  We have a Lithuanian last name and chose all our children's names to be compatible with that.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #6 on: April 05, 2021, 05:49:14 PM »
I know two priests by the (religious) name of Fr Joseph-Mary and Fr Thomas Mary. 

It sounds odd at first, but it grows on you. 

I do think it sounds rather "Continental", and I can't say definitively that I would do so, but I don't think it's objectionable. 
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #7 on: April 05, 2021, 06:51:06 PM »
it doesn't translate to a modern American context

This is true at the moment, but might not be for long now that the homosexual lobby is trying to do away with the sexes. Before you know it boys will have all sorts of girly names and vice versa, and no one'll bat an eyelash :'(

Wish it didn't translate to a modern American context. I wouldn't let that stop me though. It does sound unusual, but I kind of like the name. It's countercultural and it honours our Lady. The downside would be, if people mock him (which they surely will) then they'll profane our Lady's name in the process. Maybe give him the name, but conceal it from everybody who can't be trusted with it.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #8 on: April 05, 2021, 09:09:27 PM »
John Wayne's birth name was "Marion" a male form of Mary.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #9 on: April 05, 2021, 09:27:52 PM »
Unless you're French the poor kid is going to catch a lot of flack when he goes to school.
 

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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #10 on: April 05, 2021, 09:54:34 PM »
John Wayne's birth name was "Marion" a male form of Mary.

Yeah I know a Polish guy with the name Marion.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #11 on: April 06, 2021, 09:52:09 AM »
There's the Irish Rebel Joseph Mary Plunket.

Maybe Marion Barry, onetime Mayor of DC.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #12 on: April 06, 2021, 12:42:28 PM »
I would consider the male versions mentioned, like Marius or Mario. I've thought of a similar conundrum for girls: what if you're wanting some derivative of Joseph, but you don't like Josephine or Josepha?  ;)

My husband and I are planning to follow the custom of have some variation of Mary in our daughters' names and Joseph in our sons' names.
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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #13 on: April 06, 2021, 01:13:57 PM »
If I recall correctly, every child in Abp. Marcel Lefebvre's family had the names of Mary and Joseph as part of their names. I assume it's a French custom of a certain vintage.

I haven't and wouldn't use the name Mary as part of my sons' names.
 

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Re: "Mary" as Boy's Middle Name
« Reply #14 on: April 06, 2021, 04:34:04 PM »
Not married, but if I do get married and God blesses me with a son(s), they will definitely not have Mary as a middle name. We are not in the 13th century anymore. Just my thoughts.

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