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Offline TandJ

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Is this a big deal?
« on: March 13, 2021, 04:24:38 PM »
So I admit I am a pretty poorly catechized convert but I am always wondering how to make better confessions. I couldn’t find any info about if this is allowed so I thought I would ask here.

When confessing sins I had forgotten in previous confessions sometimes I just add them in with the current sins and don’t make the disclaimer, “here are sins from the past I had forgotten”... this isn’t a serious thing is it? The only thing I could find was the general obligation to confess forgotten mortal sins but I haven’t read that you must declare the forgotten.

One more thing, I was so horrible at determining which sins were serious or not I’d always err on the safe side and just confess them as certain and not doubtful. I was really trying to be careful and make a good confession but have learned since that this is actually not ok to do. I guess I relied on my feeling as my conscience instead of reason. So, what do I do about this now?

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Re: Is this a big deal?
« Reply #1 on: March 13, 2021, 04:59:09 PM »
Its perfectly ok, if they are mortal and you forgot them just say them in the next confession: you can tell the priest that you forgot them or not. It's up to you, I usually tell him that I forgot them last time. Well, the three conditions for a mortal sin are: it is a grave matter, committed with full knowledge, and complete and deliberate consent. As a confessor once told me when I confessed a sin but wasn't sure if it was mortal; "If you don't know if it is mortal or not, its venial." He seemed almost amused at my query.   

Edit: The devil likes to play head games with you. I am not overly scrupulous, but I sometimes ask myself: did I actually sin? If you didn't make a conscious act of the will and consent to the sin, you didn't sin. Simple as that.
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Re: Is this a big deal?
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2021, 04:25:29 PM »
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Re: Is this a big deal?
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2021, 08:11:54 PM »
You are a female and hate making decisions.  God makes allowances for you.

Melkor gives good advice.  Also, confession is for you.  It is your reset button.
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Re: Is this a big deal?
« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2021, 01:19:57 PM »
So I admit I am a pretty poorly catechized convert but I am always wondering how to make better confessions. I couldn’t find any info about if this is allowed so I thought I would ask here.

When confessing sins I had forgotten in previous confessions sometimes I just add them in with the current sins and don’t make the disclaimer, “here are sins from the past I had forgotten”... this isn’t a serious thing is it? The only thing I could find was the general obligation to confess forgotten mortal sins but I haven’t read that you must declare the forgotten.

One more thing, I was so horrible at determining which sins were serious or not I’d always err on the safe side and just confess them as certain and not doubtful. I was really trying to be careful and make a good confession but have learned since that this is actually not ok to do. I guess I relied on my feeling as my conscience instead of reason. So, what do I do about this now?
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