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Capturing The Bride
« on: May 28, 2020, 06:52:36 AM »

This article references a custom I once heard about from the Polish grandfather who died surrounded by his grandchildren.

He said when he was young it was still the custom for the bride’s family to steal her away. They all hide at a bar and if the groom finds her, her brothers have to buy everyone drinks, but if he can’t, the groom is the one who has to pay.

He said at his sister’s wedding they quickly stole her away with the groom chasing behind, but they out-drove him and were having a great time waiting at a pub when a priest rang the owner.

He said, “You’d better get over here quick or there’s going to be a divorce instead of a wedding today! The groom is raging that he can’t find the bride and says he’s going to call the whole thing off!”

And her father laughed and shouted back into the phone, “Fine! Let him go! If he’s such a spoil sport, we’ll find someone better for her!” 

“Compared to what weddings look like today, formal weddings once they began to gain popularity after the church became involved were quite different. In addition to differences in the ceremony itself, the people who took part in a wedding ceremony were also quite different in medieval times. The best man back then was not the groom’s closest friend or relative but instead was the best swordsman that they could afford to hire to stand by them and insure that the wedding went on smoothly. Similarly, the tradition that we see today of a father walking his daughter down the aisle originated as a man walking the bride down the aisle in order to ensure her safety on the way to the groom. Safety was such a key focus in weddings at this time because many times
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the marriage was a “marriage by capture” (Doll, 2016). This continued into the 16th century when it was known as “stealing the bride” (Doll, 2016). Members of the wedding party had to be prepared to protect the bride and groom and fight off the bride’s family should they come protest the wedding or try to steal her back. The groomsmen, also known as “Bride’s Knights” (Doll, 2016), were the ones responsible for assisting in the kidnapping and later keeping the wedding on track and free of interruptions. Interruptions, other than the bride’s family, that the groomsmen had to look out for were that “another suitor would try to take her, or she might try to escape” (Doll, 2016). This is why the bride always had someone at her side until the ceremony was underway, at which point the swordsman or best man would move to the right side of the groom, keeping his weapon at the ready, but it is unclear whether this was out of jealousy of the groom or if it had a deeper meaning to the ceremony. After the ceremony the best man would accompany the bride and groom back to their chambers and stand watch outside.“
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Re: Capturing The Bride
« Reply #1 on: May 28, 2020, 08:39:18 AM »
Sounds a lot more tame than Kyrgyzstan bride kidnapping
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Re: Capturing The Bride
« Reply #2 on: May 28, 2020, 12:31:28 PM »
Indeed. If a man isn't ready to kidnap you in an armed confrontation, he's just not that committed.
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Re: Capturing The Bride
« Reply #3 on: May 28, 2020, 12:52:01 PM »
If a man isn't ready to kidnap you in an armed confrontation, he's just not that committed.

New chapter to add to "He's Just Not That Into You."