What advice to you have for teens as they (hopefully) grow up?

longstrangetrip5 · July 24, 2018, 12:59:06 PM

I would like to know what you think is important for young people to know about the world they are inheriting (the poor, poor things!) sigh...

For one, I would tell them Don't believe everything you hear on the news, esp CNN and MSNBC and etc..

and there are other things thye need to know...

Greg · July 24, 2018, 03:34:06 PM

Don't fornicate before you marry.

Difficult, but achievable.

Will save you a whole heap of trouble.

OCLittleFlower · July 24, 2018, 03:41:44 PM

Limit the number of new threads you start on internet forums...

james03 · July 24, 2018, 04:35:39 PM

Nobody owes you anything. You get what you earn.

Nobody cares about your feelings.

There is no such thing as a career. It is not the mystical talisman that unlocks the secrets of the patriarchy. It's a job, and all jobs suck to some extent.

Men should work on all-male teams and learn about esprit de corp.

Women have a small window if they want to marry a good catch. 18-25. After that, you'll probably have to "settle".

"Follow your heart, and the money will follow" is a lie. Research what provides a good salary.

Kirin · July 24, 2018, 07:09:46 PM

Don't do anything permanent you can't get out of before twenty five, preferably thirty.

You won't be the same person, the people you like before then will get on your nerves after and that tattoo of whichever tribal pattern or angry looking animal made you feel cool in your early twenties will make you feel like a fool later.

Better to be alone than to settle; resentment easily builds in these parings where one party feels the other is unworthy of them

Michael Wilson · July 24, 2018, 07:48:42 PM

Stay in the stated of grace. Pray daily to the B.V.M and your Guardian Angel; assist regularly at the Sacraments; remember "What does it profit for a man to gain the whole world and suffer the loss of his soul." If you save your soul, your life would have been a success, if you lose your soul, your life would be a failure.

diaduit · July 25, 2018, 02:33:21 AM

Do one ignatian retreat in your early 20s. You'll be grounded in common sense and fortitude of faith. Doesn't mean you won't fall from Grace but it does give you a more sensible Catholic outlook for the world.

Listen to your parents, they love you and want you to have a steady life and get to heaven. No one else in the world will have your back like them. No they are not trying to kill your fun, be bossy for the sake of it and they no more about being a teenager than you do as hindsight is a wonderful tool.
All that being said, don't be afraid to assert yourself and break the apron strings when your ready so you don't end up living in Mama's basement.
For girls and boys, keep your chastity in check. You do not want to be tied by getting pregnant, for the rest of your life to a skank or ner do well. It's a life sentence.

clau clau · July 25, 2018, 04:53:53 AM

Throw your PlayStation in the bin and get some practical skills.

Learn basic plumbing, electrics, carpentry.

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/where_there%27s_muck_there%27s_brass

MundaCorMeum · July 25, 2018, 05:47:47 AM

Good stuff so far! I'm just starting with teens, so hardly qualified to give tried and true advice, yet. Just want to follow the thread and listen.

james03 · July 25, 2018, 06:00:42 AM

QuoteDon't do anything permanent you can't get out of before twenty five, preferably thirty.

Really stupid advice, especially for young women. Get married early. Have kids when you are young.

Heinrich · July 25, 2018, 09:57:15 AM

Dont go to "college." Unless you you are a dude who has at least a 120 IQ: engineering, medicine, law, finance, and other high IQ pursuits that can serve and earn well. If you are a wombman, find a southern traditional Catholic military officer. Then create an army of your own.

Christina_S · July 25, 2018, 02:36:27 PM

Listen to God's voice, ALWAYS. You never can tell where He might call you, or for what reason. He's got a real sense of humour...

These years of growing towards adulthood are exciting, but remember that they are formative years for shaping your character, conscience, and 'backbone.' Watch the company you keep, how you spend your time, your vocabulary and how colorful it is, and the state of your soul. Check yourself lots now, and it'll become habitual.

ServusMariae · July 26, 2018, 04:21:41 AM

I'd tell them: Love your enemies. Pray for those who curse you & bless all who spit on you. Hold no grudges towards any man. Set your sights upon the Eternal Things instead of the earthly. Be in the world & not for the world.

John Lamb · July 26, 2018, 06:07:13 AM

More and more it will be better to leave them alone and abandon them to God, than to disturb their hearts with "advice". This is because you can only tell them what you know, and you don't know anything. Unless they come to you specifically seeking counsel, in which case you can only pray to the Holy Spirit for the gift of counsel, tell them what comes to mind, encourage them, and abandon them to God again.

james03 · July 26, 2018, 06:33:48 AM

QuoteMore and more it will be better to leave them alone and abandon them to God, than to disturb their hearts with "advice".

True. Tell them only that if Allah wants them to be wealthy, they will be wealthy. And if Allah decrees they live in poverty, they will live in poverty. Allah wills it.

QuoteThis is because you can only tell them what you know, and you don't know anything.

Also true. Objective Truth is a fable of the old, outdated Church. The only truth is your truth, so they should sing a new reality into existence.