Typical life cycle of the new Yorker...
- move to NYC from heaven knows where you came from. Explore your identity. Spend your 20s (maybe some of your 30s) working partying, you have 3 roommates. Develop a bisexual phase. take p yoga
- you've finished grad school and youre not completely broke so you say to your significant other something romantic like "hey,want to get an apartment in Brooklyn and split the rent?"
- after a few years of cohabitation you and your "partner" tie the knot and start a family. Then the sticker shock of raising a family and buying a home in Brooklyn forces you to think of other places to live
- you settle down in someplace like Montclair because you r dollar goes further and you want good schools, a yard, etc.