How to know if something is God's will or not

[Bernadette]

His defining himself vis a vis his intrinsically disordered issue would affect you. You will be living with him.

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

[Bonaventure]

His defining himself vis a vis his intrinsically disordered issue would affect you. You will be living with him.

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

I don't think it's a sin per se. Just that it affects you.

Living with a smoker (weed or cigs) will affect you.

Doesn't mean it's a sin.

[Melkite]

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

No.  It may become sinful if living with him causes you to grow lax in your faith or becomes an occasion of sin for you.  But in and of itself, not sinful.

[Mushroom]

Gays give me creepy vibes. I don't have pleasant experiences with them. I can't imagine how they'd spend their time while sharing a living space with them. Alot of them also keep pride flags in their house and blaspheme. You're going to be exposed to lots of filth and indecency.

[diaduit]

His defining himself vis a vis his intrinsically disordered issue would affect you. You will be living with him.

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

Wouldn't say so but just imagine you pop out for a meal and when you and Aunt return, he is drunk and in the middle of watching a porn video....how do you handle that? its what you may be exposed to that I would be afraid of.

[diaduit]

He's gay.

That would be too difficult for me.  (Too high a price to pay.)
Occasional encounters/friendly relationships with homosexuals are one thing.  Living in it something else entirely.

For me, and for other Catholics I know locally, the rest of the day on Sunday -- even the entire weekend -- is an important aspect of being Catholic.  To come home to that after a TLM would have a significantly toxic impact. 
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If you can shut out the living environment, you're made of stronger stuff than I.

I never really weighed the fact that he's gay as an issue. He's not living a gay lifestyle, so it's not like he'd be bringing men home. And he doesn't talk about it. I don't see how it would affect me, really.

Why mention it then?

Not relevant to your plight.

He is a bachelor.  He fits the dictionary description of one.

My advice would be write on a piece of paper how you can help him and he can help you.   Then watch that movie "The Odd Couple" and if you still want to go ahead then do so on a trial basis.  But with basic common sense dealt with them you can just try and see what happens.

It's his home though so important to give him his space.  I'd hate it for example if someone re-arranged my tools.

Just a comment on 'his home his stuff' type of thing, I'd bet he has asked his two female friends to move in as he sees the benefits of home cooked meals and a tidy house plus companionship.  Nothing like getting older to see how vulnerable you have become.  So if he is weighing up the benefits, he should also weigh up that they need to make the home their nest also and if that includes rearranging tools that are stored on the dining room table well then he has to give them wiggle room to do so to.  That possibly one scenario where this situation could go horribly wrong, unrealistic expectations from both sides.

[Bernadette]

His defining himself vis a vis his intrinsically disordered issue would affect you. You will be living with him.

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

Wouldn't say so but just imagine you pop out for a meal and when you and Aunt return, he is drunk and in the middle of watching a porn video....how do you handle that? its what you may be exposed to that I would be afraid of.

Honestly, it's the drinking that worries me the most. I'm used to family not having the same morals as me. But I can't handle it if he's drunk all the time. Hopefully we'll have a clearer picture after the visit.

[Antonius]

Just be honest with yourself, when you are there. Access the situation, and be honest about it.

[Greg]

His defining himself vis a vis his intrinsically disordered issue would affect you. You will be living with him.

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

AS far as you know he is not gay.  He used to be gay.  Now he is homosexually inclined.

Gay normatively means he is practicing sodomy.  I would not call a person with the affliction gay.

[Greg]

He's gay.

That would be too difficult for me.  (Too high a price to pay.)
Occasional encounters/friendly relationships with homosexuals are one thing.  Living in it something else entirely.

For me, and for other Catholics I know locally, the rest of the day on Sunday -- even the entire weekend -- is an important aspect of being Catholic.  To come home to that after a TLM would have a significantly toxic impact. 
[...]

If you can shut out the living environment, you're made of stronger stuff than I.

I never really weighed the fact that he's gay as an issue. He's not living a gay lifestyle, so it's not like he'd be bringing men home. And he doesn't talk about it. I don't see how it would affect me, really.

Why mention it then?

Not relevant to your plight.

He is a bachelor.  He fits the dictionary description of one.

My advice would be write on a piece of paper how you can help him and he can help you.   Then watch that movie "The Odd Couple" and if you still want to go ahead then do so on a trial basis.  But with basic common sense dealt with them you can just try and see what happens.

It's his home though so important to give him his space.  I'd hate it for example if someone re-arranged my tools.

Just a comment on 'his home his stuff' type of thing, I'd bet he has asked his two female friends to move in as he sees the benefits of home cooked meals and a tidy house plus companionship.  Nothing like getting older to see how vulnerable you have become.  So if he is weighing up the benefits, he should also weigh up that they need to make the home their nest also and if that includes rearranging tools that are stored on the dining room table well then he has to give them wiggle room to do so to.  That possibly one scenario where this situation could go horribly wrong, unrealistic expectations from both sides.

Has he asked them?

Or has he agreed to their requests to live in his house?

[Bernadette]

Or has he agreed to their requests to live in his house?

We didn't request to live in his house. He invited us.

[Bernadette]

His defining himself vis a vis his intrinsically disordered issue would affect you. You will be living with him.

Would it be a sin to live with him? Because he's gay?

AS far as you know he is not gay.  He used to be gay.  Now he is homosexually inclined.

Gay normatively means he is practicing sodomy.  I would not call a person with the affliction gay.

I see. Thanks for the clarification.

[Greg]

Or has he agreed to their requests to live in his house?

We didn't request to live in his house. He invited us.

Then I agree with the above.  Beggars can't be choosers, but you aren't beggars.

A good idea would be to clean, tidy leave his personal space alone and see what happens.  Most batchelor slobs like the place neat if someone does it.  The movie The Odd Couple accurately shows where the border is between appreciation and annoyance

[james03]

and if that includes rearranging tools that are stored on the dining room table

[Greg]

It's not the dining room table when the washing machine needs fixing.  Then it becomes a workstation and tool bench.