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Make the kid do it!
« on: December 03, 2017, 11:54:30 PM »
Yesterday (Saturday), I had the privilege of assisting a guy from work with moving his family and their possessions to a new location.

He had one of his acquaintances assist by providing a moving truck and help. Help = his acquaintance and acq's kid (age 14).

Keep in mind, these folks are not Catholic. I spend more time trying to recite the Divine Praises in my head while at work, due to this dude's constant blasphemy than I do working sometimes. But I digress... cus what I saw was AWESOME and in a totally manly way, BEAUTIFUL.

So acq. pulls up w/ truck and dude from work says, "how do you want to do this? Furniture first? Boxes first?"

Acq: "That's up to Isaiah. I've told him he's the boss on this and makes all decisions so he can learn to run a job."

Interest status: piqued.

So now this 14 year old kid is in charge of me (SGT retired, combat vet), dude from work (SGT retired, combat vet), and his dad (no mil, but years working in trades). And you bet your lily white keester we did not rob him of this opportunity to learn to be a man. No back talk (he was the boss, after all), no second guessing, no doing what we knew was better. He was in charge. He messed something up, he had to fix it.

So for like 6 hours, I took orders from a 14 year old. It was great. Every once in a while he was trying to make a decision which would have set back the moving project and dad overruled him and explained why. But in general? Isaiah was the El Jefe.

So, question: When is the last time you all let your 12, 13, 14, heck, 18 year olds run a project at home?

I thought it was great training for the kid. We used to do this in the Army after training objectives were met. Take a private and make him a leader. It has a few effects:

1) They realize leadership and leading subordinates is not necessarily as easy as subordinates complaining about leaders
2) They need to do what they are told when not leaders

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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #1 on: December 04, 2017, 04:56:34 AM »
Great idea!
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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #2 on: December 04, 2017, 06:45:38 AM »
This is a great idea. 

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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #3 on: December 04, 2017, 10:52:30 AM »
This is excellent and kudos to your coworker.

It really gets me when parents treat teenagers like children, never entrusting them with any responsibility whatsoever but micromanaging their entire lives, but then these same teenagers are magically expected to be able to handle adult responsibility on their 18th birthday.  It doesn't work like that.  Like any other skill, handling responsibility is something which needs to be learned.
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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #4 on: December 04, 2017, 12:37:30 PM »
True, it can  be learned by teen if we yield control of things and let them exercise their own thinking skills, whether done correctly or wrong, he has learned a lesson. Plus, having been given the responsibility, a teen will grow in confidence for future decision making. Never allowing them to perform, means they will have no skills, thinking or doing. That a terrible neglect on parents part.
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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2017, 02:22:39 AM »
Something similar comes up in lean manufacturing methodology.  It's important to give some free reign to subordinates and allow them to make mistakes.  Initially, this can cost time and money but in the long run a company ends up with more productive employees that have more initiative and problem-solving skills.
 
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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2017, 02:56:24 AM »
When I am driving on the French motorways, which don't have front facing speed cameras and have large open sections where no car passes you for minutes at a time, (France is empty unlike overcrowded Britain) I sometimes put one of the children on my lap and let them steer the car at 80mph.  They have to be 5 before I let them do this.

They love it.  They're Russian.

So, I certainly approve.
 
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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #7 on: December 05, 2017, 06:16:01 PM »
When I am driving on the French motorways, which don't have front facing speed cameras and have large open sections where no car passes you for minutes at a time, (France is empty unlike overcrowded Britain) I sometimes put one of the children on my lap and let them steer the car at 80mph.  They have to be 5 before I let them do this.

They love it.  They're Russian.

So, I certainly approve.

Try that on the Autobahn.
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Re: Make the kid do it!
« Reply #8 on: December 07, 2017, 05:50:00 AM »
Do they have cameras?  Haven't been on them in years.  Always travel through Europe via France.

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